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Here's how to break the silence after an argument with your partner

Do you feel uncomfortable after an argument with your partner? That is completely natural, especially if your relationship has just started because breaking the silence can be very difficult and challenging at this time. During an argument, one person may have said or done something that hurt the other person, leading to tension and unhappiness.

The silence after an argument is uncomfortable, but it doesn't have to last forever. Here are 7 tips on how to break the silence with your partner!


Approach your partner

Breaking the silence can be very difficult, especially if you have said or done something that hurt your partner. If you feel uncomfortable about breaking the silence, it's okay to tell your partner how you feel and why it's difficult for you. Your partner may also feel uncomfortable about starting a conversation. Maybe they are worried that what they say will be hurtful. Discuss your concerns with each other and reassure each other that the situation is not easy for either of you.

Listen to each other

When you break the silence, remember to listen as much as possible. Avoid becoming defensive and blaming, because listening to what your partner has to say is more important than having the last word. If you want your partner to listen to you, be open-minded and non-judgmental about what they have to say.

Listening is one of the most important skills in a relationship. When you break the silence, understanding your partner's perspective can help you better understand their concerns and can therefore help them reconcile more easily.

Give your partner time until they are ready to reconcile

If it is difficult for your partner to break the silence, give them time until they are ready to reconcile. They may not be ready to talk about what happened immediately, and that's okay. Instead of forcing them to seek clarification, reassure them that breaking the silence will help both of you feel better. It will also help you feel less estranged from each other.

Do not engage in further verbal attacks

It is important to break the silence after a fight peacefully and without further verbal attacks. You will hurt your partner if you verbally attack them. If you break the silence by telling your partner that they are to blame for everything, it will only make them angrier.

When breaking the silence after a fight, don't avoid talking about what happened. It can be helpful to discuss what happened calmly and respectfully, as this shows your partner that breaking the silence will not lead to another fight. Remember that breaking the silence is just as difficult for your partner as it is for you.

Don't break the silence too quickly

Breaking the silence too quickly can hurt your partner just as much as breaking it in a negative way. Don't rush to have a conversation if your partner is not ready. If it hurts your partner too quickly, breaking the silence again will be even more difficult. Give them time to prepare for it.

Give yourself time

Breaking the silence should be treated with care. Prepare for the conversation by reflecting on your feelings and what happened during the argument. Also, consider how breaking the silence will affect both of you. This will help break the silence in a positive way.

Celebrate reconciliation

Since reconciling after a fight can be a difficult process, you should celebrate it with your partner. This is especially important if breaking the silence was difficult for you and/or your partner. Celebrating reconciliation will help both of you appreciate each other more and show that it has brought you closer together.

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Meet the Author

Heike Kraft

Far too often, couples separate not because they are fundamentally incompatible, but because they do not have the right "tools" to resolve their conflicts. As the founder of LoveLane, I want to help couples love more consciously and value themselves more. In recent years, I have built various digital products for companies, including a self-coaching app. Through my training as an integral coach and personal experiences, interpersonal relationships have become even more central to me. I am thrilled to be able to bring together these two areas of expertise at LoveLane.