Do you long for the days when you spent more time together as a couple? When you used to talk for hours about your desires and the future? Do you often wish you could spend more time alone with your partner, just hanging out and having a good time?
You're in good company if you feel the same way. Of course, you spend a lot of time together. You share your life, take care of the children, go to work, and stay in contact most of the day.
But where do you find the time to be a couple?
If you don't spend enough time together as a couple, it's a clear sign that something is not right in your relationship. If you ignore the warning signs, they will eventually catch up with you.
However, there are 6 small ideas you can do to spend more time as a couple and help maintain your relationship.
Spend time together daily
Yes, your life is hectic. But if you want a happy relationship, you need to make time for your partner. It's enough to consciously communicate with each other for 10-15 minutes every day.
It's best to do this when the kids are in bed. If the kids are older, wait until after dinner. You should make it clear that this is couple time and that you don't want to be disturbed. And there are a few other things you should keep in mind:
- Cell phones are on airplane mode or out of reach. It doesn't matter if you answer your messages 10 minutes earlier or later.
- Talk to your partner about at least one feeling every day. Were you angry? What was it that made you so happy? If you practice this every day, your conversations will soon become much more interesting and intense.
Kiss and hug each other more often
You rarely get a daily kiss or hug that lasts long enough, instead of being caught up in your thoughts about work or other topics. Even a few seconds of conscious attention per day can make a difference. Make your greeting or goodbye kiss an uninterrupted phase of the attention, even if it's just for a few moments.
Go to bed together. Even if you get up later, this shared time is good for your relationship.
Have regular dates
If you want your relationship to rediscover its original passion and love, you need to make time for regular dates. That means meeting with your partner once or twice a month.
Of course, if you have a babysitter at home and can do something fun, the time will be very intense. If, as parents, you rarely get to go out of your own four walls because of the kids, you don't have to miss out on a date. Have a nice evening at home by candlelight and cook together as a couple.
Take a walk together
It's best to take time for a walk together after dinner, as there are no urgent tasks left. Even if the kids come along, a walk is a good opportunity to spend time together and talk.
Implement the steps regularly!
Unfortunately, knowing what a good relationship needs is only half the battle. You have to act regularly to make your relationship bloom.
Every couple has their own strategy. Try to incorporate these 5 ideas into your daily life and refresh your relationship.